EL DIARIO DE DEE

I seriously have a lot of deep rooted respect and admiration for single moms because they have guts and a lot of it. I don't mean those mothers who got pregnant and tried aborting the child and because their abortion attempts were unsuccessful, had no choice but to keep the child. No. I'm talking about those women that once they discover they are pregnant immediately decide to keep the child even though the father of the child refuses to take responsibility. It takes a lot of guts to be able to put your life on hold, to stop or pause your education, to bear the shame and insults family and the public will pour on you just because you want to keep your child. I remember one time I thought I was pregnant because I had unprotected sex and my period was late. The first thought that ran through my mind was abortion. I had no guts to keep the child if I was pregnant. I thought what would my family, relatives and friends say? Having a child outside marriage was something I wasn'...

I was shocked when I heard the story of a man who ended his marriage with his new wife because he found out she wasn't a virgin as he had thought. I was baffled and I thought, when a woman loses her virginity before marriage, has she also lost her capacity to love and care for her husband and family or the ability to be a good wife and helpmate to her husband?. I know some guys who say they must get married to virgins and I always ask them who would marry the ones they have screwed. Virginity they say is the pride of a woman. I'm not going to argue that and I'm really proud of those that are able to keep theirs till marriage. Still, I have seen men who had terrible marriages even though they married virgins and I have also seen men who ended up in blissful marriages even though they got married to non virgins. Virginity has nothing to do with a woman's attitude. That she is not a virgin doesn't make her a whore or doesn't mean she has slept with a hundred m...

I know someone that I wish I didn't ever know who always argued that love never dies but is pressed down to the subconscious but then he proved his own theory wrong. How? He claimed he loved a girl then after two years, he wasn't sure what he felt for her and he fell for another girl. Need I say more?  Love dies just like every other thing that lives(apart from God). Love dies when you stop nourishing it. It dies when you stop taking care of it. Love dies when you take it for granted or when you maltreat it because you believe it will always be there.  Some people argue that if love dies then it wasn't true love to begin with. Does that really exist? Or is it something that was made up for us to feel unfulfilled and miserable when we feel we don't have it. I used to believe so much in that fairytale love because I saw a lot of romance movies and that kinda gave me a false idea of what love should be. In those movies, love didn't die. The lovers always ended...

If I should carry out an opinion poll and ask what we think of slavery as individuals, many of us would say how much we hate it and how God will punish countries that practiced it. When we mention slavery, our minds immediately go to the blacks and the whites or to what is happening in Libya when most of us are slave masters even without knowing it. I saw a woman bruise the mouth of a little girl that lived with her, the ones we refer to as 'house helps' with the head of a broom simply because the little girl who should be not more than ten years of age forgot to sweep the sitting room because she went to attend to a customer at the woman's shop. That woman would never hurt her child that way but its very easy hurting another person's child and giving such child difficult chores with no room to play and enjoy her childhood.  I saw a story on social media of how a woman used a hot iron to burn her 'house help's' back because the girl burnt her cloth whil...

I know couples have issues. In fact, every human interaction or relationship is prone to disagreements once in a while. That is why we are human. Irrespective of all that, there should be a limit to how we display our displeasures and anger.  If only the married couple that killed their less than a month old baby in a tug of war knew this, that child would still be alive. The baby was laid on the mattress on the ground and as the husband and wife began exchanging blows and punches, one of them unintentionally stepped on the baby killing her in the process. Neighbors notified the police who arrested the couple for murder.  What were they fighting about? Money? Was it worth their child's life? Will they ever be able to forgive themselves?

Insanity is looming around us and whoever made the statement 'many are mad, few are roaming' couldn't be farther from the truth. Insanity was shown at its peak inside the village of Olo, Enugu State. Whereas normal Nigerians are worried about the fuel scarcity, others are concerned about getting into the vagina of a six-year old girl who would be called Chiwendu for the purpose of this post. The girl must have woken up that day with the expectations and curiosity of a normal child only to meet the turning point of her life-her childhood and innocence stolen from her. Her sexual abuser turned out to be an elderly man she could call 'papa'. The girl's mother either out of ignorance or fear kept the abomination to herself after her daughter told her what happened with proof of her mutilated vagina. It turned out that the abuser had eyes for the other gender as he happened to also anal rape a fourteen year old boy who ran to the priestess in severe pains for prot...